What Healthy People Have In Common Posted in: Happiness The strangest thing keeps happening. Like this. I have a friend who is in her 60s. I know this sounds a bit cliche, but truly, she doesn’t look a day over 40. Folks are amazed and when they find out how old she is. often exclaim “No way”, they say, “what good genes you have!”. She smiles and humors these conversations. Truth is, she works at staying young. She is rigorous in the care of her skin, she’s meticulous in what she eats and drinks, she gets enough rest every night, she’s a regular at her gym, and she is going to find a way to sit on her meditation cushion most every day. She’s quite serious about taking care of herself – it isn’t a luxury to be pushed aside. She may have good genes, but most likely she is doing what is necessary to maintain her youthful glow. And this. I met a man with a particularly painful childhood. He endured some awful abuse, but he says the hardest part to endure was the lack of love in his life. Today, you wouldn’t know he lived through that trauma. He’s as loving as they get. In fact, most people assume he comes from as easy a childhood as was possible. Probably with a silver spoon. You see, today he has a college degree, financial stability, and a very loving family. He has worked incredibly hard to overcome his circumstances. He doesn’t take that loving family for granted and he and diligently works on being present and engaged. He is an ever present fixture at his kid’s events, evening dinners and homework. He nurtures his relationship with his spouse with tender care. Folks often think all the beauty in his life comes easily. It doesn’t. He shows up for it. And this. I know someone who has chronic pain. Doctors quickly prescribed narcotics to help manage the agony. He has every reason to take them. The pain is ever present and no one would question or call him weak, if he chose to medicate. He doesn’t take the pills though. He found the narcotics made him sleepy – he was missing out on too much life. He struggled to pay attention and he was often depressed on the pills so he rarely takes them. Instead, he gets up early and stretches for 30 minutes before he tries to get going. He has learned to still his mind and use his breath to ease his pain. He often watches funny movies to elevate his mood and the ever present phrase on his lips is “thank you”. He still hurts. The pain just isn’t the biggest part of his life. I keep running into these people. I call them healthy. There seems to be a theme in the way they live their lives. Did you notice it? They are healthy because they are engaging in health. There isn’t a sit around and wait for – there is a get up and DO. I see this every day. I have some friends I enjoy being around because of the health they radiate. I keep running into them in yoga class. I go to the health food store and inevitably see some of the fittest bodies around. I join a Facebook group for positive living and I find my healthiest of friends are already there. I talk about meditating with a colleague and she shares with me a similar, enhanced experience. Coincidence? I think not. Show up for your health. Show up in the smallest or biggest way you can. Stretch out of where you are comfortable and move into the magic of change. Yes….you can absolutely do this.